Self confidence is an internal state of knowing yourself. A lack of confidence is a lack of self awareness. I am going to give you all the information you need to destroy all that false confidence that has been leaving you feeling exhausted and stagnant, and we are going to change your prospective and experience.
There are two energies of confidence - masculine and feminine. The human experience is all about contrast, and even within ourselves, we must learn to balance the contrast. So lets start by balancing the masculine confidence.
Here are a few powerful Self Confidence Quotes and Affirmations that will inspire you toward self love and radical self acceptance.
Masculine Confidence can be solved, refurbished, and altered using logic.
Here’s how to do it.
When you leave your safe place where you just exist, and enter the world where you are now going to be observed, who is it in your mind, that is observing you? Identifying this “invisible audience” will help pin point your insecurities, and where you are seeking your external validation.
Lets say you’re like me and you unconsciously and sometimes consciously dress, behave, and ‘mask’ for male approval. Do I truly feel beautiful, validated, and confident when my foundation is other humans opinion of me? Absolutely not. Maybe momentarily, that hit of dopamine when you get hit on, or flirted with, or stared at. The the hormonal responses will fade, and you’ll be left again with a baseline of how you feel about yourself.
True confidence is SELF confidence. So now, we pretend that their are no observers. Your actually duty is to self express authentically but how can you do this if you don’t really know yourself? You can’t, so here is a cheat sheet to get to know yourself so quick.
What are your core values?
I’ve included a comprehensive list of 100 human core values. They are all valuable, important, and good values. By identifying 5 to 25 core values that you most resonate with, you will have taken a shortcut to self awareness and self confidence. The reason why is because now your energy that was being spend on the validation of someone else, or the amplification of someone else’s experience can be redirected back into yourself.
Within the 5+ core values you’ve selected is so much to explore. You’ll know who you are, you’ll know what is important to you, you’ll know what to research, chase, attract, embody… this organization of ourselves helps us feel safe and secure. Within this safety, we can express ourselves authentically, and be ourselves.
So that’s the logic, and I’ve gotten to this particular understanding many times, however there is a secondary element, a contrast, to confidence.
The feminine confidence is felt, created, and cared for.
This confidence must be cultivated daily. It’s so personal, and different for every human yet the fundamental component is the same across the board, and that is daily care and maintenance.
Make your priorities, a priority. Make you, your mind, your body, and your spirit your priority. Focus your energy on you. I can hear all the moms rolling their eyes. I get it, I’m a mom too. What I know, is that I want to teach my daughters how to care for themselves, how to live a fulfilling life, and how to be happy. The best way to teach them that, is by embodying it. So taking the time to care for myself, teaches everyone around me that caring for ourselves is critical. Anyone who gives you push back is dealing with their own shit.
A few practical ways to encourage feminine confidence:
Take care of yourself, as if you were taking care of someone else
Set out time every day to dedicate to yourself.
A problem written down, is a problem halved.
Make your priorities and priority.
Remember that the journey is overcoming obstacles, transformation, and the adventure of becoming the best version of ourselves. There is no finish line, but there are milestones.
100 Human Core Values
Achievement
Adaptability
Adventure
Altruism
Ambition
Balance
Beauty
Boldness
Caring
Challenge
Clarity
Collaboration
Commitment
Community
Compassion
Competence
Confidence
Connection
Consistency
Contribution
Creativity
Curiosity
Determination
Diversity
Empathy
Empowerment
Endurance
Equality
Excellence
Exploration
Fairness
Faith
Family
Fearlessness
Flexibility
Forgiveness
Freedom
Friendship
Fun
Generosity
Gratitude
Growth
Happiness
Harmony
Health
Honesty
Honor
Hope
Humility
Independence
Innovation
Integrity
Intuition
Joy
Justice
Kindness
Leadership
Learning
Love
Loyalty
Mindfulness
Open-mindedness
Optimism
Patience
Peace
Perseverance
Philanthropy
Positivity
Potential
Power
Purpose
Quality
Resilience
Respect
Responsibility
Risk-taking
Self-awareness
Self-care
Self-discipline
Service
Simplicity
Spirituality
Stability
Strength
Success
Support
Sustainability
Teamwork
Tolerance
Trust
Truth
Understanding
Unity
Vision
Vitality
Wisdom
Wonder
Worthiness
Authenticity
Accountability